A business owner--a guy who owns his own thing. That person that radiates a feeling of wealth, freedom from having to report to a boss, freedom from having to go to work, a guy driving that nice car and living in that nice house. We say about him: "Sure, he can afford it, he has his own business!" or "Obviously, he runs his own business!"
We are absolutely comfortable explaining somebody's successes by this "having his own business"-thing, and, yet, the idea of becoming one of this people terrifies us like nothing else.
Think that isn't true? Ask some of your friends to go into business with you as partners-but be prepared to hear all of the excuses why they can't. And be prepared to hear them tell you exactly why your business is going to fall on its face even though they have no experience running a business and probably don't even know anybody who does.
Why do we act this way? What happened in our past that we've become so conditioned to fail? Why is the failure so obvious and understandable for us? When has it become a default outcome of any situation?
There are a couple of aspects to the problem.
The entire concept of our education, known as The Prussian System, is training, including skills and the mindset that a student receives in order to become an employee.
All through our school years, even up through university, we are taught to be upright citizens within society, to conform and find a job, waste the next four or five decades toiling away for a boss who doesn't really care about us. The only thing we're working for is a retirement that will allow us simply exist without bumming money from our loved ones.
It's classic reward-anticipation behavior-like Pavlov's dogs. To advance in life, we are taught that we need to be a good employee and provide hard work for our betters.
We are taught that the only option for us to work for someone else and do so happily for a pat on the back and a handful of cash, totally forgetting our own dignity!
Do you ever wonder what happened to all of those crazy dreams you had when you were little? Did you ever dream about being a filing clerk, a corporate accountant, or your boss's lackey? I doubt it. You wanted to be a race car driver or maybe a pilot, didn't you?
We forget our dreams because we are repeatedly reminded that they are impractical. How can we make money doing those things? How can we support our families? How can we be productive members of society?
Time passes and without you even noticing you've spent the better part of your life working for someone you don't like, doing something you really couldn't care less about, and hoping for a turn of good fortune in the future. Do you want your kids to end up like that?
It's the sort of behavior we learned from our parents and it's the behavior you'll be passing on to your kids and your grandchildren if you don't find the courage to put a stop to the cycle and turn your future around.
If you want to take control of your future and be able to live the life you've always wanted, the first step is becoming your own boss.
Scary thought, isn't it? Of course it is but that's only because you've never done anything like that before. You've never thought about becoming a businessperson.
Especially in an Internet based business with all of the rumors and controversy and hearsay swirling around it.
That's where the "Comfort Zone" comes to play.
What is the one way we learn anything?
There is only one way - repetition. Remember, you try to write, it looks awful in the beginning, but you keep re-writing the same word over and over and become good at it. By now you don't even think how to do it, you just know.
Any new skill is learned that way, no matter what it is.
Through repetition you become who you are as well.
If every aspect of your job makes you cringe: going in early, staying late, putting up with bad situations and garbage from your boss and co-workers-you're not alone! You say to yourself that things are only temporary, that'll you find something better, but it never does.
Someday, maybe sooner than later, your eyes will open and you'll see that, without your knowledge, you have become a cookie-cutter representative of everyone you share an occupation with. You own the same style of car, wear the same clothes, speak the same language, and even have the same hobbies!
Repetition teaches us the thoughts and actions that define who we are and separates the aspects of our lives in familiar and unfamiliar.
The former will feel comfortable and friendly, and the latter will cause your brain to give you a burst of adrenalin, letting you know that you are stepping out of your comfort zone.
A minuscule amount of this substance will dictate your actions, the decisions you make and ultimately your destiny!
"It's in the moment of making a decision when the destiny is formed!"-said Tony Robbins.
But that adrenalin in your bloodstream won't let you make any decisions that would lead to any significant change. The chemical is released when you're confronted with something new and makes you feel uncomfortable, jittery, and unsure of yourself. You'll do almost anything to make the feeling go away and the easiest way to do that is to stay stuck in the same old routines.
Everyone you know will be a big help at keeping you in line as well.
Look around at the people you call friends. It's kind of interesting that you don't really hang around anyone who makes much less than you do or anyone who makes much more. Studies have found that a person's incomes can often be figured as an average of the incomes of their seven closest acquaintances.
This means that you can't really go to a friend and ask advice about how to make a six figure salary-not unless your friend already does. They just won't know how to answer you and will most often reply that "it can't be done" or will tell you to get your head out of the clouds.
The worst part is you'll take their opinion as fact, more often than not, because it represents the path of least resistance-it's much easier to keep doing what you are doing than to succeed at anything new.
Thich Nhat Hanh wrote something hundreds of years ago but he could just as well have written them today: "people are having a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of fear of the unknown they prefer suffering that is familiar." Sound a little bit like you?
You've heard all about Global Resort Network, have read, watched, and listened to all the testimonials of people who have success dealing with them but you're still not ready to take that next step. You can't let your life be ruled by what-ifs. What is something goes wrong? What if this I can succeed? What if I do succeed?
Listen to this.
Leading up to my tournament debut, I spoke with my Tae Kwon Do coach, Master Shilkaitis, and said: "I want to compete but I don't think I'm ready yet." He answered that "you will never feel that you are one hundred percent ready. It's just a matter of finding the strength and desire to win and overcoming your fear!" Truer words were never spoken.
I did compete and, with a spectacular roundhouse kick that left my opponent unconscious, I won third place. I was so nervous at the time that I can't even remember how it all happened.
I can talk until I'm blue in the face and you either will choose to expand your horizons and realize your potential, or you will fall back into those old comfortable routines and be right back where you started.
Hoping for change is not enough. Your life will not change unless you change it. Someone once said the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over and again and still expecting to get a different result each time.
Choose to change today!
It will be scary in the beginning, it will feel very uncomfortable and strange, but that's when you know that you are changing things!
To get everything you deserve you have to change the way you are doing things. Make the decision today and choose your destiny.
If you do, maybe next time you hear someone say "sure, he can afford those things-he owns his own business," they'll be a talking about you.
We are absolutely comfortable explaining somebody's successes by this "having his own business"-thing, and, yet, the idea of becoming one of this people terrifies us like nothing else.
Think that isn't true? Ask some of your friends to go into business with you as partners-but be prepared to hear all of the excuses why they can't. And be prepared to hear them tell you exactly why your business is going to fall on its face even though they have no experience running a business and probably don't even know anybody who does.
Why do we act this way? What happened in our past that we've become so conditioned to fail? Why is the failure so obvious and understandable for us? When has it become a default outcome of any situation?
There are a couple of aspects to the problem.
The entire concept of our education, known as The Prussian System, is training, including skills and the mindset that a student receives in order to become an employee.
All through our school years, even up through university, we are taught to be upright citizens within society, to conform and find a job, waste the next four or five decades toiling away for a boss who doesn't really care about us. The only thing we're working for is a retirement that will allow us simply exist without bumming money from our loved ones.
It's classic reward-anticipation behavior-like Pavlov's dogs. To advance in life, we are taught that we need to be a good employee and provide hard work for our betters.
We are taught that the only option for us to work for someone else and do so happily for a pat on the back and a handful of cash, totally forgetting our own dignity!
Do you ever wonder what happened to all of those crazy dreams you had when you were little? Did you ever dream about being a filing clerk, a corporate accountant, or your boss's lackey? I doubt it. You wanted to be a race car driver or maybe a pilot, didn't you?
We forget our dreams because we are repeatedly reminded that they are impractical. How can we make money doing those things? How can we support our families? How can we be productive members of society?
Time passes and without you even noticing you've spent the better part of your life working for someone you don't like, doing something you really couldn't care less about, and hoping for a turn of good fortune in the future. Do you want your kids to end up like that?
It's the sort of behavior we learned from our parents and it's the behavior you'll be passing on to your kids and your grandchildren if you don't find the courage to put a stop to the cycle and turn your future around.
If you want to take control of your future and be able to live the life you've always wanted, the first step is becoming your own boss.
Scary thought, isn't it? Of course it is but that's only because you've never done anything like that before. You've never thought about becoming a businessperson.
Especially in an Internet based business with all of the rumors and controversy and hearsay swirling around it.
That's where the "Comfort Zone" comes to play.
What is the one way we learn anything?
There is only one way - repetition. Remember, you try to write, it looks awful in the beginning, but you keep re-writing the same word over and over and become good at it. By now you don't even think how to do it, you just know.
Any new skill is learned that way, no matter what it is.
Through repetition you become who you are as well.
If every aspect of your job makes you cringe: going in early, staying late, putting up with bad situations and garbage from your boss and co-workers-you're not alone! You say to yourself that things are only temporary, that'll you find something better, but it never does.
Someday, maybe sooner than later, your eyes will open and you'll see that, without your knowledge, you have become a cookie-cutter representative of everyone you share an occupation with. You own the same style of car, wear the same clothes, speak the same language, and even have the same hobbies!
Repetition teaches us the thoughts and actions that define who we are and separates the aspects of our lives in familiar and unfamiliar.
The former will feel comfortable and friendly, and the latter will cause your brain to give you a burst of adrenalin, letting you know that you are stepping out of your comfort zone.
A minuscule amount of this substance will dictate your actions, the decisions you make and ultimately your destiny!
"It's in the moment of making a decision when the destiny is formed!"-said Tony Robbins.
But that adrenalin in your bloodstream won't let you make any decisions that would lead to any significant change. The chemical is released when you're confronted with something new and makes you feel uncomfortable, jittery, and unsure of yourself. You'll do almost anything to make the feeling go away and the easiest way to do that is to stay stuck in the same old routines.
Everyone you know will be a big help at keeping you in line as well.
Look around at the people you call friends. It's kind of interesting that you don't really hang around anyone who makes much less than you do or anyone who makes much more. Studies have found that a person's incomes can often be figured as an average of the incomes of their seven closest acquaintances.
This means that you can't really go to a friend and ask advice about how to make a six figure salary-not unless your friend already does. They just won't know how to answer you and will most often reply that "it can't be done" or will tell you to get your head out of the clouds.
The worst part is you'll take their opinion as fact, more often than not, because it represents the path of least resistance-it's much easier to keep doing what you are doing than to succeed at anything new.
Thich Nhat Hanh wrote something hundreds of years ago but he could just as well have written them today: "people are having a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of fear of the unknown they prefer suffering that is familiar." Sound a little bit like you?
You've heard all about Global Resort Network, have read, watched, and listened to all the testimonials of people who have success dealing with them but you're still not ready to take that next step. You can't let your life be ruled by what-ifs. What is something goes wrong? What if this I can succeed? What if I do succeed?
Listen to this.
Leading up to my tournament debut, I spoke with my Tae Kwon Do coach, Master Shilkaitis, and said: "I want to compete but I don't think I'm ready yet." He answered that "you will never feel that you are one hundred percent ready. It's just a matter of finding the strength and desire to win and overcoming your fear!" Truer words were never spoken.
I did compete and, with a spectacular roundhouse kick that left my opponent unconscious, I won third place. I was so nervous at the time that I can't even remember how it all happened.
I can talk until I'm blue in the face and you either will choose to expand your horizons and realize your potential, or you will fall back into those old comfortable routines and be right back where you started.
Hoping for change is not enough. Your life will not change unless you change it. Someone once said the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over and again and still expecting to get a different result each time.
Choose to change today!
It will be scary in the beginning, it will feel very uncomfortable and strange, but that's when you know that you are changing things!
To get everything you deserve you have to change the way you are doing things. Make the decision today and choose your destiny.
If you do, maybe next time you hear someone say "sure, he can afford those things-he owns his own business," they'll be a talking about you.
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About the author: Pavel Becker is a frequent contributor of articles on the subjects of Web-Promotion and Small Business Development. To find out how to make money on-line go to his blog PavelBecker.com Get a totally unique version of this article from our article submission service
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